Ending a relationship is always difficult. Whenever we split with someone we like or love, we are quite often more prone to acting irrationally or allowing our judgement to be clouded.

No matter who it was that made the decision to break off the relationship, it is often a very painful process that may take some time to get over.

The key to getting over a failed relationship is to allow ourselves space and time to get over it and patiently allowing that process to work itself out.

During this time, you should be cautious about rebound relationships or unfulfilling unions that will only create more problems in the long-run.

On the flip side of the coin, wanting to get revenge on our ex, break up their relationships or continuing to be angry about perceived faults and actions will not benefit you in any way.

Of course, most of us have been guilty of this at some time or another and we are all in a position to learn from our mistakes.

Although splitting up with a partner is never easy, the way we handle the situation will determine how painful it is.

So what are the common mistakes we should avoid?

Attempting to contact your ex

How will you ever move on if you are still constantly texting or phoning your ex? Setting up camp outside their door or stalking them is unlikely to help you get over the former relationship anytime soon.

Even if you decide to remain friends, it is likely that you will both still need time to breathe and move on, in order to distance yourself from any previous feelings before you are ready to hang out as friends again.

If you try to push for a friendship straight away, then you will find it much harder to get over that person.

This of course does not mean you should not be amicable, where possible you should try to be, but at the same time, it is good to retain a respectful distance.

Grieving for too long

While it is perfectly natural to feel upset and under the weather when your relationship comes to an end, wallowing in self-pity for too long will not do you any favours.

When your negative emotions start to overtake your life to the point where you can no longer function as normal, then it is time to seek help.

You may want to consider either counselling or speaking to a really good friend to help you get over the failed relationship if it is really beginning to get you down.

Hitting the bottle

Most of us at some point have drowned our sorrows with a bottle of wine or two when our relationship first hit the rocks.

The problem is, if you find yourself doing this all the time. Becoming an alcoholic or consuming a bottle of whiskey a day will not get at the root of what your problems are and indeed it will wreak havoc with your health and ability to live a normal life.

Eating too much

Similarly, eating five tubs of Ben & Jerry's in order to numb the pain, or six pizzas will hardly do you any favours either.

Try to avoid any potentially destructive or self-comforting behaviour when you break up with your partner.

Of course, it is understandable to want to lock yourself away for a little bit with two bars of chocolate or a tub of ice cream when we first experience a relationship breakup, but doing this too much or using it as a psychological crutch will only create more problems in the long-run.

The rebound

We've all heard of the rebound relationship, where we jump straight into a new relationship while the other has just gone cold.

The problem is, most rebound relationships are unlikely to work out. By replacing your ex straight away, you will most likely end up choosing someone that is simply not right for you and it is bound to cause pain and heartbreak in the long-run.

This is because at this stage, your judgement is still most likely to be clouded and therefore getting into a relationship at this time is simply not a good idea.

Abandoning a relationship altogether

But you should also be wary of doing the other extreme of forgoing any relationship at all and closing yourself off to any possibility of finding happiness, ever.

Often this is borne out of a lack of self-esteem or the belief that you will never find someone nice. However, relationships break up for all sorts of reasons, and just because one person isn't right for you, it does not mean that no-one ever will be.

Always remain open to new possibilities and relationships as remaining single for life is definitely not a recipe for getting over a broken heart.ADNFCR-2867-ID-801801039-ADNFCR

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