Rejection is one of those facts of life that we would really rather wasn't. However, when it comes to online dating, getting used to rejection is something you just need to do. Not everyone will click with you, and sometimes even if you really like someone, they just won't feel the same way. 

How you deal with rejection is important though. You can't let it get to you. Sometimes it really can be the other person, and at times it's as simple as just not feeling that vital 'spark'. Don't dwell on the why and simply resolve to bounce back. 

So what are the best tips for dealing with rejection? 

Be positive

Just because someone rejected you, it doesn't mean that there's something inherently undateable about you. It's easy to say you need to get up, dust yourself off and move onto the next one, but of course this can be hard. It's natural for us to question why someone doesn't want to be with us, and going about this the wrong way can leave you feeling upset and lonely. 

The best way to tackle depression is to tell yourself it's not about you. Perhaps the person you went on a date with had already met someone else before they met you and that progressed faster, or maybe they've recently got out of a relationship and going on a date made them realise that they weren't ready to move on. There are any number of reasons that are out of your control that can lead to someone rejecting you. 

If you take this sort of positive approach and tell yourself that the rejection wasn't all about you, then the chances are you will start to feel a lot better. You might feel a little upset at first, but if it's not your fault, then you can just move on and find someone who will want you for you. After all, you don't want to be wasting your time with someone who's not sure. 

The worst thing you can do is to take it personally. Don't start questioning yourself or you'll only end up feeling depressed. Picking the date to pieces and trying to find where you went wrong is not only a waste of your time, but it will leave you feeling sorry for yourself, and this is not a position you want to be in. 

Distract yourself

If you do feel down after being rejected, and it's only natural that you might, try to distract yourself. It doesn't necessarily need to be the stereoptypical large tub of ice cream and pyjamas that gets you through rejection, but doing stuff that takes your mind off the fact you've been rejected will make you feel so much better. 

Take the time you would be spending mulling over the rejection and do something worthwhile – call a friend, go out with your friends and do something fun or even get back to online dating so you can find someone better – anything that will take your mind off it. If you show yourself that you have other things going on and that you don't need that person to make you happy, you'll be much more likely to get over the rejection quickly and get back on the horse. 

Compliment yourself

Finally, you should take some time to tell yourself that you deserve better. If you're feeling a bit down because someone doesn't want to date you, don't get hung up on your own perceived negative points. Look at your positives and simply tell yourself what they are missing out on. 

One of the best ways to do this is to just take a pen and paper and list everything that people have complimented you for before. You'll feel much happier straight away and you'll remember all the things you've got going for you at a time when it's easy to focus on the negatives. You'll feel good about yourself and forget that rejection before you know it!ADNFCR-2867-ID-801763497-ADNFCR

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