After 40: Finding the perfect woman

Finding the lady of your dreams when you are over 40 can sometimes feel like a bit of a tall order, particularly when you have spent much of your life overseas, serving in the army.

Indeed, by the time you hit your 40s, many people will have settled down with kids, or are happily married.

However there are also a growing number of women who are still trying to find Mr Right and are looking for something new.

So the key question is of course: how do you find Mrs Right? Well, one of the most important things you can do is to seek out people with similar hobbies and interests.

Ideally, you want a woman who has also served in the army and therefore shares the same principles and concerns that you do.

Of course, it is also worth bearing in mind that the places you should seek out your number one will also vary depending upon what you are looking for.

Below, we have listed some of the main ways you can meet your perfect soulmate.

Dating sites

If you are after long-term relationships or new romances, it goes without saying that joining a dating site is one of the easiest and most practical ways to meet a partner.

However, selecting the most appropriate site is equally important – after all, if you want to find Ms Right, then the dating site should also be right.

There are hundreds of dating sites to choose from, but very few which understand the specific and complex needs of former soldiers.

For example if you wanted to meet with similar, like-minded people then a site such as Pushback – which covers a wide range of topics relating to our war heroes – is ideal for meeting the lady of your dreams.

Join clubs and associations

Joining clubs and getting involved in activities will make it more likely that you will find the perfect partner.

It is too easy to revert back to old habits and routines when we are over 40, but this restricts the pool of people you have access to.

This is why it is always a great idea to get involved in new projects and activities, or join dating websites that are more in tune with your hobbies and interests.

You don't have to alter your schedule in any radical way either. Quite often, even just visiting a new place, or going along to one new class can make all the difference in the world and improve your confidence.

Participate in charitable ventures!

What better way to forge a new social circle and impress a potential lover than by taking part in charitable activities!
For example, the Help for Heroes charity often utilises the assistance from volunteers, plus there are many more organisations that assist injured or wounded servicemen.

Not only are these worthwhile causes that will allow you to meet more people and impress a potential partner, but you will also be helping other servicemen.
However, whatever your passion – animals, helping the homeless, improving the community – there are literally hundreds of charities in the UK which will cater to these interests and could use your help.

Commitment

Commitment is an essential agreement in any relationship. If you embark upon the search for a loved one halfheartedly, the results are likely to be equally as lukewarm.

Therefore, if you are serious about finding that special person then put aside some time each day to going to new places, joining dating sites and contacting people.

It is said that in this life, nothing worth having comes easy, so it is always worth putting some effort into it.

Let go of the past

Almost all of us have had some bad relationships in the past that we would much rather forget. 

The problem is if you hold onto past fears and pain, it makes it much harder to attract and maintain a new relationship.

Don't let past suspicions and experiences hijack your new ones, regardless of how bad it has been.
Of course, this is easier said than done, but at some point it is necessary to acknowledge that while things may not have worked out in the past, the future doesn't have to be the same.

Relax!

It is much easier said than done, but so many of us let our nerves get in the way of striking up conversations with new people and making a go of things.

What is the point of making all that effort to go out there and meet new people only to let nerves come in and ruin the whole thing.

Therefore, instead of letting your emotions get the better of you, chill out, have a drink or two, put on your best face and enjoy the whole experience of dating, and meeting up with new people.